Wednesday, March 3, 2010

Cure Fear by Living in the Moment

"We settle on a perspective, and then we collect evidence to support our outlook".

As an avid reader of psychology, theology, and philosophy, I found this particular quote both transcendental and moving.

When we look at a situation going on in our lives, what we see is a combination of past events and present expectations. The images that come to mind catalyze our deepest fears, and as a consequence we go into fight or flight mode emotionally. Being that emotions are the epicenter of our spiritual existence, it is the one thing we guard with hyper-aggression. Probably more than our own physical safety. For example, sometimes we fear failure, so much so that we prevent ourselves from even taking the first step toward accomplishing a goal. We decide that procrastination is a better method for dealing with the fear, and rationalize the putting off of certain goals by claiming we are unable to accomplish it; all before even understanding what it may ask of us to complete. Yet, we risk driving recklessly, under the influence, at night, in the rain. The odds of physical harm are ten times more likely to become a part of our experience than a failure that will end up crippling our dreams for the rest of our lives.

If risk is inevitable for acquiring satisfaction, why then is emotional risk hindered by irrational phobias? Fears develop as we attain experiences-- usually unpleasant ones -- and we make an attempt to protect ourselves from repeating that undesirable outcome again. Which is good, because it shows that we have learned something in the process. That we have learned not to repeat the same mistake. The downside is due to becoming hyper vigilant about not succumbing to the situations that have caused us such pain in the past. Usually this extreme need to protect only serves to draw in the undesired outcome. That which we fear the most, almost always ends up unfolding before our eyes.

So let not the evidence of your reality, mimic the perspective of your perceived past, and instead, live simply; in the moment.


Thursday, February 4, 2010

Faith

Have Faith. People say these two little words to appease the inevitable anxiety experienced due to lack of knowledge of the future. I'm in a position where all of the chips are up in the air. Love, career, and social matters all have a beginning, yet none of them have a clear path ahead of me. I suppose this is, by definition, the meaning of Life. Embarking on a journey. And the very nature of a journey is to experience the unknown.

But sometimes you just need a hint. A hunch. A bone. A something that let's you know you are on the right track. Or at least on a track that is headed forward, and not into a dead-end.

Have Faith. How does one get faith to begin with? And once it's been had, how does one hold on to it? It can, in fact, be quite elusive when the signs aren't pointing to the final destination.

Take Love for example. Love has a way of cleverly playing hide and seek when you wish it would just give up and show itself. Then, just when you think you've sniffed out its hiding spot, you find yourself lost in a forest, with no track marks to find your way back to civilization. Having faith in this situation is easy in terms of accepting that you will eventually make your way back to camp (as in, return to your "normal" self). But the need to find love never escapes you. It's like the first high a crack addict experiences and seeks for years to experience again. Having faith that you will eventually grab a hold of love's hand before it escapes you again is quite difficult to get a good grasp on.

I'm still trying to find the faith that I will find love and it will not run away. In the meantime, I'm going to enjoy watching the $1000 career and social chips fall on lucky number 27. When I figure this faith thing out, I'll let you know. And if you have any suggestions, I'm all ears.

Until we chat again....